Case 5 –Xuling disengagement dispute
Location: The village office
Participants: The mediator (female, age around 40), two disputing villagers (ex-boyfriend and girl friend).
The Case:(https://www.daowen.com)
The conflict is between a female villager and a male villager,who used to be boyfriend and girlfriend and was later engaged.The two were formerly romantically involved, and had planned to marry.The woman called off the engagement after moving to the city for work.During the period of time they were dating, the man gave some gifts and money to the family of the woman.He also labored for the woman’s family for certain amount of time.The man is seeking compensation for gifts, labor and other money he contributed to the woman and her family during their relationship.
The Mediation Session:
The mediator briefly introduces the case and asks each party to air their view.She encourages both parties to remain open-minded and behave in a civilized manner.She also quotes the marriage law to try to persuade the man that he should respect the choice of the woman.After both list their costs, the dispute is then focused on how much compensation the woman should pay to the man.After the mediator determines that the parties have no chance of rekindling their relationship, the mediator attempts to get the man to recognize that there are no legally binding statutes that guarantee compensation for money spent during the relationship.The mediator then encourages the man to consider a friendly relationship with the woman in the future.Finally, both parties agree on a certain amount of money being paid by the woman to the man.The mediation ended in agreement.