Case 6 – Gulin offspring support of parents:
HOST: Here are the plaintiffs Chen Youcai and Deng Fuguo with their dispute of supporting their parents.As we work in the Law Affairs Office and have got the assignment given by the law center, we should be responsible for the case.Before we deal with it, we have asked both sides to have an out-of-court mediation in the dispute at Chen Zhongxiao's home.If we succeed in mediation, then there is no need for you to make a lawsuit, isn't it? So Chen Zhongxiao, what's the name of the village leader?
VILLAGE LEADER: Zhang Chenggong.
HOST: Oh, ZhangYoulin, Director Chen has come too.ChenZhongxiao, what do you require? And make a statement about yourself in every aspect.
HOST1:Yeah, just be brief.
Chen Zhongxiao: I wanna say that, with the help of the village government, it's been 12 or 13 years since the marriage.The village government has talked about this for 10 times.Recently they come for it every evening.Talking about supporting me, Xianfu claims that he won't support me until I am 60.And we'd better ask her two younger sisters and one brother whether they should support me or not.Of course they should because I suffer a terrible illness.But they don't take on the responsibility.
When he divided the family property, the two brothers were not in, yeah were not in.So I took charge of dividing the whole family property—something actual but failed at last.With the help of the village government, they came and mediated the matter for several times.Actually,something was already settled, however, was later settled again by some person surnamed Zhang.We divided up all the pigs and firewoods by ourselves according to the number of people.I also have a grandson who also got something.All we divided up were tables and chairs.Zhang said the brothers hadn't got anything.What was left for them was only a chair.They considered it to be unreasonable.Through mediation and settlement… As is known to Village leader, there were 5 pigs, but daughter-in-law insisted that there be 7 pigs.When we divided, there were indeed 7 pigs but they didn’t know how to divide.According to the procedures, only 5 pigs were left.They got 3, and we got 2.Then nobody wanted to talk about it.I don’t care any more.I wanna mediate but he refused, and I felt meaningless pestering with them.It was useless when I ran to get help a few times.Something happening in the past should reverse a verdict.Your younger brother divided rice to you.Don't get stuffs of other people.I asked for evidence.We invited the leaders and the village leader to discuss.There is no other way if you cannot provide evidence.They didn't determine the place.They didn't say how much was needed per month.They also didn’t…They should cut all the trees for them.The residence registers of the two women are here.But I am considering the place.If we divide the trees to them and they ask me for them in the future, how should I settle it.Secretary Xiong came to dealt with it until 2 o'clock,but failed.As for things about supporting me, they failed twice in dealing with it.I was hit by stroke twice and went to Luzhou to have a check.Hulai paid nothing.He never pays anything, not to mention the usual allowance.I have to wait for the two youngest children to pay for me.It cost me 1600 yuan to see a doctor in Gulin.My daughter said paid 400 yuan.They took 400 yuan back home and talked to her brothers.The son who is a soldier said he would come back and deal with the family affairs well.It will cost him much to come back home each time.He said he lend your brother 400 yuan for medical cost.When they came back and three brothers went to see him.They turned to village government for help after discussion failed.The son who is a soldier…they mediated two night, but reach no agreement.My daughter said the house of my second son,saying the newly-built house should not belong to him only but be divided to the three brothers.Of course they both respect parents and talk with Mr.Mo, so I cannot settle it.The house was divided up 10 years ageo when you divided up your family property.Now though we, old people live with them, it was built by me, and I dare not divide it up among us.We talked about it for many times.Every time the leaders seemed to nearly settle it but failed.So I am sick now but nobody supports me.I have to ask the leaders for help, no matter what I will do, they should help me to deal with this problem.Living in both sides will drive me to death.I don’t want to live in both sides.I know your character, so tough.If I live with you, considering I’ve always being ill and moaning, but you won’t cook for me,even force me, I can’t do anything at that moment.As far as living and medical cost are concerned, how should we solve the problems, we’ve talked about it several times.
Host1: What matters is with the medical cost indeed, and the living expenditure.You’ve talked about that several times.
Deng Xingguo: Yes, that’s the living expenditure that hasn’t been solved.For this, the second son said that…
Host2: The other two brothers are willing to fulfill their obligation, and now they…
Deng Xingguo: Yes, they are.They told me how much obligation I should fulfill and how much I should take.What’s your arrangement?
Host2: The key depends on the eldest son.
Host1: Then, Deng Xingguo, as the defendant in the case,please say something about it.
Deng Xingguo: You could ask the old say something, then we could see how they treat my wife–Zhang, you can ask them to say something first.
Host1: Do you think that I what your father—Chen Zhongxiao said just now is right?
Deng Xingguo: What he said, yes, you’d ask the two olds (Deng Xingguo’s parents) to say something about how they treat my wife .Please!
Host1:No, how do you think?
Host2: What’s your opinion? Your parents have said something.Why don’t you support them? And what’s your opinion.Please…
Deng Xingguo: What’s my opinion? I have no idea, and she is the key part.
Host2: That’s his wife-Zhang.Your opinion, please talk about it.We want to hear your reasons.
Chen Zhongxiao: How to talk? You just don’t want to admit me as your father.
Host2: Just say something.Anything you are not content with,please, speak out.
Chen Zhongxiao: What to talk, you just don’t want to admit me.
Host2: Your reason, ok? Your opinion please.
Host1: Just stand on your side, and then, let’s ignore your wife for a moment.What’s your views on supporting your parents.Yours, just your opinion.
Deng Xingguo: Nothing special.The import fact is since we left the family, what have you done for us? Things haven’t changed a little all the time.Then left the family.Take the pigsty for example, that was built because of our insistence.I have no idea.The fields account a lot, about which we didn’t talk exactly.All of those is completed under our insistence.
Host2: Give us your opinion.
Host1: Anything you think they did wrong, you can speak out.
Host2: What’s your suggestion for the olds?
Host1: You don’t support them, so you must have your own reasons.
Deng Xingguo: Talk about the child and he was a baby when we left the family.In a word, they didn’t want to take care of my baby and they asked us to bring up the child by ourselves.(sigh) I don’t have much discontent, however,my wife has.
Host2: You should talk about your opinion, your opinion please.
Deng Xingguo: No matter I came back or not …lately, they gave me several calls, but nothing special.And they didn’t say anything to discuss.That’s to say, 10-20days, at most one call per week, we, in a word…
Host1: You, Chen Zhongxiao, how many children do you have?
Chen Zhongxiao: 5.
Host1: How old are you ?
Chen Zhongxiao: What?
Host1: How old are you?
Chen Zhongxiao: More than 50, almost 60.
Host1: Your wife is named guifang?
Chen Zhongxiao: She is more than 60, 2 or 3 years older than me.
Host1: Among your children, is Deng Xingguo the eldest?
Chen Zhongxiao: Yes, the eldest.
Host1: You have another two sons and there are 3 sons in all,along with 2 daughters.Are the other two sons married?
Chen Zhongxiao: They were married.
Host1: And the 2 daughters?
Chen Zhongxiao: So were they.
Host1: By now, except Deng Xingguo, do the others support you?
Chen Zhongxiao: Talk about the daughter, according to the rural customs, which the leader of the village also know.If they have, then give you some, if not, it doesn’t matter.It’s not like what the urban dwellers do.The daughters have no responsibility, and this is the rural custom.However, here is indeed some money the daughters gave me.
Host2: 3 sons.Account the most.
Chen Zhongxiao: You get it, of course, it’s the responsibility of the 3 sons.
Host1: And the other two sons, they all…
Chen Zhongxiao: Just for my illness, I have to pay for 300-400 yuan for the medicine every month.
Host1: When did you divide your family?
Chen Zhongxiao: By now, it’s been 10 year, without accounting it exactly, at least 10 years, The elder grandson is more than 13 now and they have been married for 13 years.
Host1: You mean Deng Xingguo has been married for 13 years?
Chen Zhongxiao: Yes, after his marriage, he came here and we divide the possessions…
Host1: Your family was divided in 1995.How did you divide that time?
Chen Zhongxiao(sigh)
Host2: They have no objection towards family division.
Chen Zhongxiao: Director xiong did some work several times.Yes, after his work, you all agreed to divide the family.That evening several people along with Xiong, we began to divide the family starting from the eldest.The second son went out to make money and Mr.Mo was in school .We divide many things, more than one.Almost all the things are divided.And I represented the other two sons to divide things.These are family affairs.What I mean is all that was agreed by them.Pigs, ox and goats, as regard these they didn’t have any supporting evidence.House was assigned by Director Xiong and some others.I had no disagreement.After the eldest agreed, we divided the family.All the pigs and ox were divided when they agreed.We all know the character of the wife of Deng Xingguo.
Host2: From this aspect that maybe your eldest son had no objection.
Chen Zhongxiao: Have or not? The villagers know that.
Host1: This is Chen Zhongxiao’s opinion.After you divided the family, actually, you demand that your children should support you.
Chen Zhongxiao: At that family division time, I asked that…I wasn’t very healthy, so I asked them if we divided, would any one of them will support me? The wife of Deng Xingguo said “No, we won’t support you.”I said: “All right”The other daughter-in-law asked if they would give money, she also said “no”.After that I said: “Let’s forget it.Save some money for yourself.”So we didn’t make it clear very much in the end.I told the other children that the worst way is each takes some responsibility, that’s to say, all of them are responsible for me.Every time I call them to discuss, but we couldn’t reach any agreement.Then they all don’t want to take their responsibility to support me.You leaders could ask the leader of the village who had anticipated.
Host1: You required your children to support you.Under such circumstances, you two olds mean the support in the future, after the family division.
Chen Zhongxiao: They haven’t done anything all the time.
Host1: Had you mentioned that at the family division time?
Chen Zhongxiao: I had, you children didn’t agree.When I mentioned that, there was no reply.What should I do then？
Host1: Anything about the support included in the agreement?
Chen Zhongxiao: No.
Host1: Then when do you want them to support you?
Chen Zhongxiao: When I am sick, I think.I’ve been sick for 6 or 7 years .Now I can’t work although I could move a little.I just say so, now, living here, the side is suffering from a loss.According to the rural saying, there is nothing left without the human obligation.Local government required them to support us, but they never do and we just couldn’t reach an agreement.The leader of the village is kind indeed.He had talked with them many times.No result.For the local government, I’ve also called the former team leader to have a look.I have no choice, either do the village.We couldn’t mediate it.At last we went through the formalities, branch secretary Zhang said they would come to mediate again.But he said he would not go.At the beginning, both Deng Xingguo and his wife were at home but neither of them came.
Host1: How long have you been sock?
Chen Zhongxiao: About 6 or 7 years.
Host1: After 1999.
Chen Zhongxiao: I can’t remember the exact time.
Host1: Have you required your sons to support you after your illness?
Chen Zhongxiao: What?
Host1: You put forward your requirement that time, did they fulfill their obligation?
Chen Zhongxiao: I’ve said when I got sick for the first time.I went to Luzhou when I found I was badly sick.The youngest one accompanied me there and paid for my cost of medicine.The brothers had a talk.Deng Xingguo promised to give me 100 yuan to buy me some nutritional foods,however, nothing I got.Nothing! That was the first time,and now I have diabetes.No choice for me but go to hospital.I also got nothing.I paid all the cost myself, and as father, I am more regretful when I think of these things.Most of the time I live here, and I have to contimue my life,although you don’t give me enough money.I live here and this family afford my expenditure.Then the family afford all and I depend on them.But I have no idea that, for the problem of supporting, whether they have responsibility when we get old?...and if I don’t depend on anyone, I’m afraid I won’t have one for burying me in the future.There is no other choice for me but to depend on one, but you are not willing to support me.
Host2: Because dad often interrupted the talk, you haven’t made a complete description.So you could continue to say something including your wife’s opinion.In a word, you belong to the same family.
Deng Xingguo: I scarcely talked with them about that.
Host2: Anyway, you’ll talk in the future.So now please solve the problem before the opening of the court.
Host2: You think that the olds are not fair to you three brothers and your opinion, you could talk about that.
Chen Zhongxiao: You think it’s not fair.The leader of village was there and there were other leaders.It’s obvious to see whether it’s fair or not.
Host1: Let’s see how to deal with this matter.If there is any problem, you could put forwards your views.Ok?
...(argument)
Host2: Your opinion, yours.Say something please Chen Zhongxiao I’ve talked bout my opinion.For the parents,you could ask them to say something.
Host2: We want yours, not theirs.
Host1: That’s, after their description, it’s your turn.About children, possessions and their help for you, you should say something.Then, as for supporting them, should you take the responsibility？
Village leader: According to the reasons both sides have said,we will find out your contradiction and your focal point.We’ll also help both of you get over your worries.Because you are father and son, don’t you? So, for this relative relationship, there is no need to go to the court.But you are father and mother, father and son.Oh, it’s impossible to terminate your relationship.The blood relationship can not be terminated.You have to live together.We’d like to solve this problem for you.This is my suggestion.You can give us your idea that is to say, what do you think of your parents? In what aspect do your parents go wrong? You can tell us.So your parents can also say something.
Host2: Both of your parents…
Host1: Our goal is that, in every aspect.
Deng Xingguo: They cook, feed pigs and do something else at my home.And they have taken some clothes from my home.The bean curd has been thrown away.They are not reasonable.
Host2: Both sides can express your opinion.Then we can find a solution.
Host1: What you talk about is true, since you are doing a face to face talk.
Chen Zhongxiao: I won’t mind your business, won’t beat you or show complains to you.Say whatever you like before us.Don’t answer if unnecessary.
Host2: Mr.Zhang listened to you several times.
Chen Zhongxiao: So did he.
Deng Xingguo: He dare not say.A full month has passed since my child was born, around 40 days.Those eggs which were eaten by her were picked up somewhere by me.In front of her, I never said whether they were right or wrong.Do you think that when she is thinking of it, she will feel shamed?We have been doing work for others for 2 years, but she never mentions it and does not care.
Village leader: When you were building the house, your wife was cooking at home.At that time, she quarreled with your parents.Your parents threw bean curd away.Second,your wife has a baby, and you picked up some eggs somewhere.So your parents complained.They are very terrifying.I feel, in a family, children should respect their parents, who should show understanding for them in return.Although the family property has been divided up,you shouldn’t have done this.I have read so many “family talk”.In effect, the family property divided up once it was mentioned.If the parents go out to work, their children have to be brought up by the grandmother.Perhaps, the grandparents have to support 3 or 4 children.In this case, this is Deng Xingguo said.We for a moment,consider it as a fact, although it might not be a fact.If so,the two elderly parents may do something.You should understand.Your parents, Deng Mingzhong is sick,seriously sick.Since you are brothers and are neighbors,you ought to attend him properly.It is impossible to attend the children well and deal with your things perfectly.After all, the family property was divided up.The thing, you want to… Let’s listen.Basically it is a trifle.With many years gone, we never sit together peacefully.Be a son and the daughter in law, we know it clearly and don’t talk them to parents.The relationship of something can be eliminated.You are just the parents and forever.Under this circumstance, many things need to be excused.Supposing parents are compulsive according to the law.On the other hand, parents should take on the responsibility of raising their children.At the very moments when parents have lost the ability of working, and income for life, be the children, they must take on the responsibility of supporting them.It is the law and regulation, so we need no more talk.If you, Deng Guiqing refuse to take on the responsibility, then you have to go to the court and is destined to fail with our doubt.If the court rules, then they will carry it out.But unlike it, we can try to persuade you to comprise with each other without going to court.Actually, he was not supposed to persuade you.At that time, whether or not you have passed the sentence(including every aspect) you should execute it.After the sentence, maybe two or three years, so we hope you everything goes well, everything goes well.Here, what we are talking about is just something related to law.Of course, you should think about it.
Host 1: …they invited the team leader to mediate in the presence of the village leader.It basically came to the issue of the parent’s living ability.When it came to this problem, we thought their sons and daughters, besides daughter-in-law should support them.After the mediation,of course, after the conversation between the two sides,that’s to say, the focal dispute, as Deng Guiqing mentioned.The first was from here.The second was the parents’opinion on the labor force of their sons and daughters.That’s mutual…sons.The problem was that the parents have been living with the second son.It was unfair on this matter.Another, they presented a question, the parents lived with the second son, and the second son built a new house; together with him, his parents also built a house.
Deng Guiqing: At that time, I said we should divide the house among 3 persons, or 4.The things should be divided the old.At that time, we talked with them but they disagreed.Although we only knew a little of the law, but you didn’t build this house.All the time, they lived with you… it was forgivable.Regarding this matter, to deal with this problem, they argued with each other the 1st night.First,there was no execution.The second was that there was also no mediation.And another night, Director Xiong was invited to talk about it.After that, they basically approved.With respect to the place, our opinion was to finish this matter.So, we just gave them a simple mediated opinion.After that, the third day, they asked me and said one side didn’t agree and said that the mediation opinion disappeared, the mediation opinion disappeared,disappeared.
…argument
Host 1: They came here the third night and talked about it.We found that there really existed many trivial things.When we settled down some problems, another came,because Quiqiang Deng’s wife has the last name of Zhang.The Party branch was older.They can only play a part of mediation.What if he brought his matter of family relations into the court or the social publicity? The Director just discussed it.Whether your contract was arbitrary or unchanged? From this point, it was impossible.Mr.Zhang was really dedicated.So just wrote an introduction letter.To lawsuit or anything else? Seek law institute to mediate.Of course, today, especially to you leaders, you were dedicated to it.We didn’t want to worsen this matter.Only you could make the case clear.If this case was heard by the court, it should be verdicted absolutely.There must be one side.It’s clear to all, the winning side, is fine.On the contrary, there will be much influence on the lost side.I could inform you in person.But I thought, you should think more on this matter.To your family, you should take more things into account.If it was worse, I could not guess what the result would be.You could guess.Just mow, our leader gave you a brief introduction of it.When it came to this situation, the relations between father and son, and your family, achieve what results, you should think of it.
Chen Zhongxiao: If he cherishes our brotherhood.Only I can talk to him.If he talked to you, something got wrong and gave you a call…gave you a call, you appeared once.We didn’t know how you talked with each other on the phone and then you were fighting.Then it took you some money to see a doctor.The result was he paid for it.You knew,they were for a bamboo backpack, and the day before I said I would talk to them separately.I had a poor memory.They said they could not find it the day before.They were not at home.It has been more than a decade since their families were divided.They were there to find something with torch.The brothers put some boxes on the surface.It was not convenient for me to go in.he looked for something with torch, if he didn’t find it, he would go to my room to seek.Just some rooms, not so many.He looked for it every corner.It was not convenient for me to say anything.After he was out, I asked Mr.Zhang and said:“what did you find?”They were not at home and you were looking for it for several years.The third time, they were back having lunch.It was a small thing rather than a big one to the village.Came for a bamboo backpack.After the division, the possessions should belong to the person who is supposed to own.I’d like to take the responsibility for the division if it was not divided fairly.I donnot admit anything after the family division.Last year, one son was going to sprinkle pesticide.He wanted two bamboo backpack but could not find any at first.He tried to turn the house upside down.At last , he found two on the upstairs.Indeed, their possessions have been divided.I suggested he that he should inform his brother about this and I said he was not right to find things from this room to another.And I also told him he should not take away his brother’s possessions without telling his brother.“I don’t care!”, he said.His brother came to get them back violently.He was easy to lose his bad temper.He held his hoe, trying to beat his brother with it… His brother also refused to give them to him.His brother said that he could not take them away for he never told him.Then he held his hoe again and throw it toward his brother.Fortunately, his brother dodged and was no hit.If that his brother was hit by the hoe.it would cost a lot of money to cure ieven though he was lucky enough without being hit dead.Then he run to break many things, including basins and wash bowls.These are trivial.
Host 1: There is no need talking about that now.I mean that you can talk about your demands in detail with us now.
Host 2: What the three brothers should do for you? The other two brothers didn’t say anything.What are you demands on the support?
Chen Zhongxiao: I’ve no idea.If the demands are too many,the children won’t accept it.If the demands are too few, it can’t continue my life.So, it’s better for you leaders to solve it and I will accept the decision which is right for me.
Host 1: How much do you want probably?
Chen Zhongxiao: I have everything in the countryside.
Host2: The support involves the grain, which belongs to living stuff.As for the medical cost, you can make a general demand on it please and then we will see whether they can afford it or not.We’ll discuss how much everybody’s share of medical cost and food.En, you make out how much you need according to you daily life, including the pocket money and other needs.Anyhow, you offer a simple suggestion.Please don’t talk too much unrelated.How much you need per month.
Chen Zhongxiao: Every month , 40 yuan at least.I need to buy traditional Chinese medicine for 3 or 4 packages per month.
Host2: 40 yuan from each one or together?
Chen Zhongxiao: 40 yuan in total.Of course, it doesn’t include the expenditures of living and grain.
Host 2: Do you have field, don’t you?
Chen Zhongxiao: Yes, I have.How should we solve this problem? In fact, we have discussed it before and made out the methods.Our village leader said that my children didn’t do well and denied their obligations.Actually, all the problems were nearly settled down, but the daughter-in-law…
Host2: Is the food from your field enough to you?
Chen Zhongxiao: Yes, My two pieces of lands can provide enough food to us.
Host 2: Who will do the work?
Chen Zhongxiao: En, I have to ask for other’s help to do it .(https://www.daowen.com)
Host 1: You mean one of the three brothers can take it.
Chen Zhongxiao: Yes.
Host 2: As for the work, who will do it?
Host 1: How many pieces of land do you have?
Chen Zhongxiao: We have two pieces.My wife and I each have one.
Host 2: Is the food from the fields enough to you two?
Chen Zhongxiao: I have another son, my youngest son, who joined the army after graduation from school.When we were dividing the family, I wanted to give them one more piece and I did so.
Host 1: The ownership of that piece of this land is indefinite,is it ?
Chen Zhongxiao: The ownership of all these fields are indefinite.
Host 1: I want to ask you how many pieces of fields do you have now?
Chen Zhongxiao: I have 3 pieces altogether now.
Host1: Now you have the land of you tow and the three brothers’.
Chen Zhongxiao: Desides the daughter-in-law’s, I have three pieces of land.
Host 2: As for the three pieces of land, each of the three brothers do work on one piece.
Chen Zhongxiao: I just talk about our two adults.
Host1: What about others, other expenses?
Host2: What the other expenses?
Host1: You need 40 yuan on medicine.
Chen Zhongxiao: Yes, at least 40 yuan.
Host1: 40 yuan, how about others?
Chen Zhongxiao: Every month…
Host3: 120 yuan is enough.
Chen Zhongxiao: I can’t understand what’s the solution.I can’t find the firewood.The village leaders came to see and know it.
Host2: How about using honeycomb coal briquette.
Host1: If you use honeycomb coal briquette, how much are they?
Host3: How many you will use every day?
Chen Zhongxiao: Three.
Host2: More than that, more than that.
Host1: Five briquettes.
Host3: One briquette needs more than 0.3 yuan, and you will spend more than 50 yuan every month.Three briquettes every day, you just need to pay 50 yuan per month.
Host1: Oh, Ninety.
…(Discussing how much the money they need to pay)
Host1: Three brothers, besides the grain, everyone pays 50 yuan.
Host2: Is this demand available?
…(Discussing)
Host2: The court must talk about this case according to it.
Chen Zhongxiao: According to it, just according to it.
…（Discussing）
Host2: The court would count 120 yuan as the bottom line of living.
Host1: They should calculate the money according to the lowest living standard security system.
Host2: Oh.
Host3: According to the lowest living standard security system.
Host2: With respect to supporting the old, you can’t say that you don’t support the old because you have complaints about the old.This is made by the law that you must support the old.There is no negotiation.
Host1: If you all should pay 4100 per year, each should pay 1300 per year, that is more or less 100 per month, isn’t it?
Host2: Regarding the support, the eldest brother, you can’t think you will not support the old just because the old is sorry to you on certain things, or the old is unfair to you,or you have complaints about the old.You should support the old without any negotiation and supporting the old is what you must do and is made by the law.The marriage law prescribes that the old bring you up when you are young,and when they are old, you must support them.This is your obligation and there is no negotiation.En, as to these complaints, you could exchange your ideas with each other.If you think that the old don’t care much of you, or when they see you work hard they should take care of your children, you can talk about it with them……These can be improved, that is to respect the old and love the young.That also means you respect the old, they would love you.To support the old is the social virtues in all dynasties,and the law has made clear prescriptions.That is to say you have no rights to refuse supporting the old because the old didn’t do anything.If when you have discussed these in details, and the old can make some explanation,they could make some change and progress.And for you,the ways or methods could also be improved.But to this supporting problem, you must consider it in general and you can’t say you will not think about it or you won’t support.Supporting the old is what you must do.
Host1: One more is about your wife.Her name is Zhang XX.She can speak out her reasons.
Host 2: What are your reasons? Is it seemed that because of your wife’s thought? You do not support your parents and maybe it is something trivial to you, but your wife is more important.But the work on your wife should be done by you, this is your family.You can say that your wife and you get married, she shares the responsibility of supporting your parents.There is no bargain!
Deng Xingguo: You force me to talk with her and I have no choice.
Host 2: No matter whom you divorce, you have to support your parents when you get married again.It is impossible for you not to support your parents!
Host 1: The key is that you should say something in a proper way.
Host 2: You should do the work on your wife and take the responsibility for doing work on her.
Deng Xingguo: What can I do? I have requested the leaders to investigate the case.You can ask the two olds how we treat them; they still do that even today.
Host 2: Just now our director said to you, your wife don’t understand and act on her own will, that is to say, she doesn’t support your parents.And finally the result is that the court will support the olds’ lawsuit.Yes, the court will do so, then after the court’s decision is made, and after the court verdict takes effect, if you are not willing at that time, the olds can apply for enforcing.Your property will be frozen.If you say that you don’t want to have the house, we can take it and sell it.The olds also need to go on their life! If you are in this condition, the law will impose sanctions on your wife if she hinders the case.You should make this point to her clearly, actually we have told the consequences to you.
Deng Xingguo: …I said nothing when I was back home and I felt vexed when I saw him, …This is what you did!
Village leader: Deng Xingguo, we should make this matter clearly.Our purpose to come here is that your parents want to make the relationship between you and your father better.For the matter of supporting your parents,actually it is the matter of the living cost and the matter of medical cost.We can deal with it before go to the court,so why should we talk about these things at that time? To this case, of course, we have considered what result we want to get.You come here to deal with the case; I think it is not only a case for your family, but also an example of case for making a general propaganda.Isn’t it? Maybe other people will be educated by your case.We will go to the broadcast and called the reporters to come, today.But consider for many other respects, just for you, we deal with these things ahead of time.There are no more words to you about the case.It is right and proper that children should support parents, and it is also protected by law.If the case is conveyed to the public, no people will listen to you that your parents don’t treat you well and do something wrong.Firstly, you don’t support your parents is a fault.What will the public say? Secondly, although your parents are more than 60 years old, they still have 10 or 20 years to live, of course, at least 10 or 20 years.I see that your wife and I were born in the same year the same month.Under this premise, your life is long.There is an old saying which says that at 30 I took my stand, so we should make resolves even if we are 30 years old.In the future, you will put in your energy to get entangled in the minor dispute with your parents, and more over, it is bad for your personal creation.The examples are obvious,including my old home, my parents and so on.At that time,in the generation of my parents, they had 3 brothers.Honestly speaking, for the house, my uncle built a house by himself.You should not always want to get the property from your parents, should you? We are talking here that at least, your wife is a little bit rascally and unreasonable.You must have some problems that were not handled properly, and some contradictions that were not resolved.At least, the matter happened that time was not resolved,so it caused your contradiction for a long time.No communication and no resolution and that lead to the estrangement between you.Although they are minor matters and no reasons for quarreling, you quarrel with each other because of the estrangement between you.Maybe, from your parents’ opinion and our standpoint, it is not Deng Xingguo’s fault, but it takes two to make a quarrel.You must have many unpleasant conflicts and many contradictions with each other, and you don’t deal with it correctly.So we come here in the purpose of persuading you, listening to your opinions, and striving to mediation.So then Deng Xingguo’s father had no choice but to drop the lawsuit.Thus, the problem was solved.Now, let’s invite Director Chen to talk about his opinion to this case.
Director Chen: Right now the parents said that, wherever the case was delivered, whatever judges have been made, the kindred relationship between father and son could not be changed anyhow, and their relationship exists till their death.So today we came all the way here, over 10 kilometers, for what? for nothing else but the harmony of your family.We hope we can reunion your family, not divide your family.This is one purpose.The other purpose is, through mediation, to remedy your relations and make your family membership more harmonious.If our mediation doesn’t work, then you have to turn to law.And the law institute will deal with your case according to a definite process, just as what we’re doing and at last,they’ll help you to reach an agreement.From what you said, I find that the main problem lies in your family relationship, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, father and son.However, both the old and the daughter- in-law were always talking about the other’s shortcomings without realizing your own shortcomings.As the old in the family, just like being a branch secretary, you should mediate any problem emerging in family.Now, the conflict in your family is so serious, at which you may go to the court if we can’t help you.In this situation, you still focus on complaining about others and pay a deaf ear to other’s opinion, which is harmful to your family’s unity.Actually, respecting parents and supporting parents is the ethics, valued and venerated by our nation, and the children should embody this ethics.We’re talking about managing our country with ethics.Why? Because it’s the tradition of our nation.
Host 2: Running family with ethics.
Director Chen: We should respect the Chinese tradition and pass it down from generation to generation.Well, bringing up children is obligation for parents.And now, we are becoming old.We have fulfilled our duty which is prescribed by nobody but the law.When you were children under 18 who are nit dependent, the law has set the duty that parents must bring up their children.When the children have had their own families, and parents have become old, what should the parents do? Then the children should support their parents.This is the grown-up children’s duty.So we gather together for the purpose of the unity of your family.We all hope that you can maintain the harmonious family relationship.If you still haven’t settled the differences through the mediation, then you should turn to the court.To settle the differences in court which is law-oriented is not the same case as we did here.Then what you are talking about just now would be meaningless.You must do what you should do according to the items of the law.Well, I just mentioned a story on the way here.A teacher in Dongxiang Village didn’t support his parents and even maltreated them.At last, the court sentenced him in his school in front of all the students.So for maltreating, the teacher got fired and became homeless.On the other hand, parents love all their children and want to treat them equally.And you should know that each finger of a hand has different length.As for parents, it’s difficult and impossible for them to deal with children’s business fairly.Viewing it from teacher’s angle, parents should try their best to do the communication between brothers, between sisters,between themselves as well as between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and never trigger any conflicts.I think that the reasons are known to everybody here.And we usually deal with the case involved with family problems.For this, I think some more reasons should be mentioned.Today, we are here to mediate your problems.And you’d better settle the differences through the mediation.We are talking about your family affairs.And all of you know the reasons.They can be settled if the people involved still have human nature.If anyone is inhuman then what we talk about here is meaningless.Man with human nature then can be ruled by morals and laws.It works the same way to a country, a collective and a family.The world would get into a mess without morals and laws.Well, you and your lover, you’re husband-wife relationship.When this relationship exists, all the properties including the money got from working for others, you have some.But when the court decides the case，that is about the money.Nothing will be said about it.The case will be dealt in the way it should be.And that doesn’t mean that you work for others in cities and earn a lot of money, so I am what and what.The money is the joint property.The house is also our joint property.The fed pigs, the pigs you feed at your home are also our joint property.That is the relationship between us.That doesn’t mean things belongs to whom,they are just our joint property, aren’t they? The relationship is significant, and I just want to make you understand it clearly and then we can have a talk together.The branch secretary also comes.And we just try our best to make the relationship between our two families good.Making the relationship good, there is nothing else.What you should talk about has talked.
Host2: How about your parents? Judging from what you mentioned, it seems that they do not care much for you.You, brothers are dealing with the land problem.Property problem and your way do deal with these problems are not quite considerate.But you have to take your parents into consideration, it’s quite impossible for you to take all the things into consideration.As for all these things, … We should not only talk about one’s shortcomings.We should pay attention to one’s merits.Like you, your life is given by your parents and you are raised by your parents.When your parents are getting older, how could you get rid of your obligations, your obligations to support them? No matter what you do, if you do not support your parents,you do something wrong.Not only the society will despise you, but also the court will criticize what you did.The lawsuit is not worthwhile.I can tell you that it’s not worthwhile.Even I invite 7or 8 senior lawyers for you, you cannot win.The only way to do is to make a good relationship between you and your parents.Do not…you have fulfilled your obligations.
Deng Xingguo：I have no idea and you are dealing with it… I don’t know.You are the old, but what you said I do not agree.
Host2: Parents are sometimes not so thoughtful.
Host1: Today, we are dealing with it.Don’t you want to listen to you wife’s opinion?
Deng Xingguo: Do you think whether she is satisfied or not when hearing these words?
Host2: If not satisfies, you can speak out.You can speak out to your parents.What is wrong and what is not dealt with properly, you can exchange your ideas with your parents directly.You can put forward your idea and have a communication with your parents.If you cannot, you can turn to the village leader and branch secretary.This must be settled down finally.No matter it is settled down through mediation or court ruling, it needs to be solved and it could not be suspended without solution.Isn’t it?Host3: we noticed you last time.Do you have some other reasons?
Deng Xingguo: When did you inform me last time? The 20th,the 10th, or？I’m afraid that the number can be wrong.What do you want to talk about?
Host1: Last time, we informed you, maybe the court had enforced you on itself.You have got the summon for detention from the court.Do you understand? Your opinion,is what I said right? Police arrested the people.
Host2: What you care now is your wife.You wife doesn’t fulfill her obligations to support the parents.The court’s opinion is that as for the supporting obligation, you should have a communication with your wife.You both should make a deal that it’s not responsibility of one person.You should be responsible for your wife’s fault.You should do ideological work on her, but the supporting obligations must be fulfilled.I have said that you should do the work on her.After all you are couple, and you have children,when you grow old, but your children do not support you,so what’s your feeling at that time.Everybody is getting older.The present situation of your parents reflects yours in the future.
Host1: Under such situation, the whole case is really troublesome, if you do not carry out your obligation after the sentence.If according to the Criminal Law, you refuse to execute the effective sentence of the court.The people’s court can make the judgment.There is no need for the involvement of the police and the Procuratorate.I speak to you all the reasonable words.
…arguement
Deng Xingguo: We just talk about going to the local police station and police bureau.
…arguement
Village leader: Just now, all the leaders here made the whole things clear.Everything is complementary.The relationship between people is also complementary.It is the relationship between me and the director is the same.The first time we met, we just said hello to each other.Today, I said hello to him and he said hello to me.There is nothing serious.This means complementary.If we met today, no matter the village leader or the director, we did not know each other, so we did not say hello to each other,did we? If he did not know me, he wouldn’t say hello to me either.So I think that this is what I mean complementary.
…arguement
Chen Zhongxiao: What do you want me to do to you? You can go to do a research.You should do a deep research…I have been living here for a long time.You two do not live in the house, I do everything for you.2 years, you just go out for 2 years and I have to take care of the home for you.I have told you that I ve taken care of the house for you for 2 years.What on the hell do you want me to do?
Host2: As for the grandchildren, if the old want to take care of them for you, they can, but if they do not, they have no obligation to do it for you.
…arguement
Host: The law prescribes that there is the obligation the parents should fulfill to their children, but there is no obligation to the grandchildren.As long as you two are still living, your parents have no such obligation.You should think twice about that.You should not think that your parents owe you anything.
…discussion
Host1: We have talked about this very clearly.You only see the shortcomings, don’t you? Just see the shortcomings and never find the merits of each other.Isn’t it true?So under such premise, there is a saying: If the father is benevolent, the children must be filial, while the children are filial, the father can be gratified.When the parents are gratified, they want to take care of the children for you and they just want to do work for you.They can also cook for you.But you do not win their heart.If…
Host2: … I feel that your parents are really hardworking.They are not that kind of people who like playing outside.It’s obvious to see that as long as you make them happy, fulfill your obligations as a son and your filial responsibility,they care a lot for your children as well as for you.They should not…
…argument
Chen Zhongxiao: Since the grandchildren were born, I have been making food for them.Don’t you forget?
…argument
Host1: Chen Zhongxiao and Deng Xingguo, you are still father and son.The lawsuit, the lawsuit also demands that Deng Xingguo should afford the living fee for you father.It’s about 10,000.The medical cost is about 480.
Deng Xingguo: How could the total cost amount to 10,000.
Host1: These are two different concepts.That means according to the lawsuit appeal, the lawsuit, mediation is still the priority.Other things will not be taken into consideration.I think that after all, this is life, especially when your parents cannot work anymore.Life should continue, so how about the problems in the past? A s a mediator, I put forward my suggestion: we talked about it just now.For your parents, 150 per month is enough.That means, besides the grain, each afford 50 yuan and then they still have their land.
…argument
Host1: The cost for fuel, oil, salt and other things amount to 150 yuan per month.The early budget is 115, with another 35, so the sum total is 150.Basically, you …
…argument
Host1: Each of you affords 50yuan per month and he also owns his land.
Host2: How much grain each of you can afford?
Host1: Do you think whether my suggestion is proper or not.If proper, we can reach an agreement for mediation, so …
Host2: So the parents, what’s your opinion?
…argument
Deng Xingguo: Your opinion is still not clear.You even refuse to afford 20 yuan.Firstly, through your mediation, I should reach an agreement with you.Only when I agree,we can move on to talk about the next part.I never said that I wouldn’t support my parents, but when it’s time to divide (the family?), we did not divide.…
…argument
Deng Xingguo: No matter 300 or 500, I can afford.But I afford the money only for those things.
Host1: One family, why?
Village leader: We have done as much we can do as possible.
Host2: All of us can think about it.Branch Secretary, village leader and director you come in your busy schedule.It shows that we all care for him.Since we have told him the results and reasons clearly, so let’s just leave him more time to think bout it.
…discussion
Host2: We will leave you more time to think about it.If you cannot reach an agreement, even we have done so much on you and you can’t reach an agreement, we will leave you more time, before the opening of the court, to think about it.After your deep thought, if you think that what we said is true, you can come to us before the opening of the court,we can still mediate.If you feel that there is anything not gratified, you can only turn to the lawsuit.In this case, we still want to leave you more time to think about it carefully.
Host1: When the court opens, you should come.If not, the court will…
Host2: It will enforce you to come.
Host1: I don’t think there is any reason that we cannot settle down the problem.
…argument
Deng Xingguo: If I should go to the court, I can understand even in jail.I even feel comfortable in jail for several years.
Host2: You can only talk likt that when you are angry.One day in jail can make you mad and two days in jail can even drive you dead.
…argument
Director Chen: You are just here arguing without any reason due to the lack of knowledge.
Deng Xingguo: Actually, I don’t have much knowledge.
Director Chen: Poor quality.The main part, you just pick up these same and throw away the bigger ones.I just want to tell you that this is what you have done.The obligation you should fulfill you should fulfill.The obligation you should not fulfill, you should…
Deng Xingguo: I have fulfilled what I should fulfill.However,what he should fulfill, he…
Director Chen: You force your father to do work for you and bring his belongs to you and anything else.These are his rights.
Host2: I feel that your parents are healthy and hardworking.If like you, they work for others, leave the children at home and still need earn money, This couple of woods of yours, how much on earth do you want for?
Director Chen: As a big family, you should take money earning into consideration.In a broad sense, it means that you should consider the development of the family and in a narrow sense, it means you should consider looking for money.
…argument
Deng Xingguo: I want to tell you that the room l live in now is my little brother’s.I borrowed the house from him for living.There are tens of chickens fed in our house, so there are chicken shit and dust everywhere.You can just have a look at that half of the house.What a mess.
Host2: You should create things by yourself.What divided to you cannot last forever.You should take creation into consideration.The home created by yourself is the best.So, just now, Director Chen said that anything wrong, you should communicate with each other.This is relating to your basic quality.As for us, the former village leader and branch secretary both speak reasons to you.There should be some time when you settle down your problem.It’s not easy to ask you to give us your opinion.There is still a month before the opening of the court, you should think about it again and you can think about it with your wife.You just think about it and then tell us your decision.If you reach an agreement, you will come again.It’s OK to make an agreement with you.If you cannot achieve any agreement, so…
Host1: Today, there is still gap between the two sides and the mediation will end here.So we hope that father Chen Zhongxiao and son Deng Xingguo can think about it.You two can communicate with each other and make things more clearly.If you can reach an agreement before the opening of the court, it’s nice.Tonight, as the legal assistants, we have fulfilled our obligations.