Appendix　1

Appendix　1

Questionnaire

Family is a cell of society.It plays a great role in the society.It is said that harmony in the family will benefit to everything.Therefore,we should pay more attention to family life.Raising the quality of family life is our duty.However,how do we improve it? It is hard work that needs to be researched.Please will you complete the questionnaire in order to create a beautiful life in the future.Thank you very much.

Part One:Personal factual questions &your spouse's personal factual questions

I.Your personal factual questions:(Please put tick √ in the box)

II.Your spouse's personal questions:(Please put tick √ in the box)

Part two:Questions about family issues (Please put tick √ in the box.Some questions can be chosen multiply.If you choose 'Others',please you write down specific items.)

1.At home,you communicate with your spouse　　　　Much More Little Less Zero

2.At home,your spouse communicates with you　　　　Much More Little Less Zero

3.Conversation between your and your spouse is　　　　Equal Friendly Dull Serious

4.At home,you suffer from your spouse's ridicule　　　　Yes Sometimes No

5.At home,your spouse suffers from your ridicule　　　　Yes Sometimes No

6.In front of the public such as relatives and friends,you like to ridicule your spouse　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

7.In front of the public such as relatives and friends,your spouse likes to ridicule you　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

8.You like to give your spouse a nickname based on his or her defect　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

9.Your spouse likes to give you a nickname based on your defect　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

10.To give your spouse a nickname based on his or her defect is　　　　　　　　humour love dislike bore hate

11.When talk with your spouse,you like to use vulgar and coarse language　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

12.When talk with you,your spouse likes to use vulgar and coarse language　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

13.The frequency of your using dirty language in talking with your spouse is　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

14.The frequency of your spouse using dirty language in talking with you is　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

15.When a conflict between you and your spouse,you like to use dirty language　　　　Yes Sometimes No

16.When a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse likes to use dirty language　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

17.When a conflict between you and your spouse,you like to use terrible words such as'kill you' 'beat you till die' 'divorce from you' 'drown you' 'fire you' and 'others' to your spouse.

18.When a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse likes to use terrible words such as'kill you','beat you till die','divorce from you','drown you','fire you' and 'others' to you.

19.When you use dirty language in a conflict,your spouse feels　　　　　　　　angry sad insult shame no sense

20.When your spouse uses dirty language in a conflict,you feel　　　　　　　　angry sad insult shame no sense

21.When a conflict between you and your spouse,the frequency of your using dirty language is　　　　　　　　high medium low zero

22.When a conflict between you and your spouse,the frequency of your spouse's using dirty language is　　　　　　　　high medium low zero

23.When a conflict between you and your spouse,you glare at your spouse　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

24.When a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse glares at you　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

25.When a conflict between you and your spouse,you move your fi st to your spouse　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

26.When a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse moves his or her fi st to you　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

27.When a conflict between you and your spouse,you stamp your foot　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

28.When a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse stamp his or her foot　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

29.When a conflict between you and your spouse,you fall on　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

30.When a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse fall on　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

31.Conflict such as quarrel and fighting between you and your spouse was caused by some factors such as Economy,Going shopping,Not doing housework,Going home late,Seeing your own parents,Seeing your friends,Disciplining child,Drinking,Smoking,Gambling,Criticising,Blaming,Complaining,Not accepting suggestion,Dirty language,Ridicule,Derogatory joke,Extramarital affair,Others

32.After a conflict,you prohibit your spouse from contacting with his or her own relatives and friends　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

33.After a conflict,your spouse prohibits you from contacting with your relatives and friends　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

34.Because you dislike your spouse,you are indifferent for and ignore him or her at home　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

35.Your indifference and ignorance reflect in no communication,studying,reading newspaper,watching TV,computing,chat with phone,others

36.Because your spouse dislikes you,he or she is indifferent for and ignores you at home　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

37.Your spouse indifference and ignorance reflect in no communication,studying,reading newspaper,watching TV,computing,chat with phone,others

38.After a conflict between you and your spouse,you feel anxious　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

39.After a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse feels anxious　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

40.Facing your shouting,your spouse feels very nervous　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

41.Facing your spouse's shouting,you feel very nervous　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

42.After a conflict between you and your spouse,you always worry about your spouse will not talk with you for　　　　　　　　one day two days three days a week more than one week

43.After a conflict between you and your spouse,your spouse always worry about you will not talk with him or her for　　　　　　　　one day two days three days a week more than one week

44.You hope you be a center in family　　　　Yes Sometimes No

45.Your spouse hopes him or her be a center in family　　　　Yes Sometimes No

46.If your spouse did not accept your suggestion,you feel　　　　　　　　pitiful unhappy sad annoyed angry ignored

47.If you did not accept your spouse's suggestion,he or she feels　　　　　　　　pitiful unhappy sad annoyed angry ignored

48.If your spouse did not accept your suggestion,with your spouse you　　　　　　　　quarrel fight swear others

49.If you did not accept your spouse's suggestion,with you he or she　　　　　　　　quarrel fight swear others

50.During a conflict between you and your spouse,your heart beats fast and pains　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

51.After a conflict between you and your spouse,you can not sleep have nightmare are awakened by nightmare get headache have others

52.Because your spouse does not communicate with you at home,you feel so lonely that your stomach pains　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

53.Because your spouse often derogates you at home and outside,you go around in a daze　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No

54.Your marriage is　　　　　　　　happy unhappy miserable

55.In your daily life,between you and your spouse,there is domestic violence,including battering,derogation,separation,verbal abuse,threat,no communication,etc　　　　　　　　Yes Sometimes No