YouDon’tLoveMe
by Erma Bombeck
“You don’t love me!”
How many times have your kids laid that one on you?
And how many times have you，as a parent，resisted the urge to tell them how much?
Someday，when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a mother，I’ll tell them.
I loved you enough to bug you about where you were going，with whom，and what time you would get home.
I loved you enough to insist you buy a bike with your own money that we could afford and you couldn’t.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover your hand⁃picked friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to make you return a Milky Way with a bite out of it to a drugstore and confess，“I stole this.”
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your bedroom，a job that would have taken me fifteen minutes.
I loved you enough to say，“Yes，you can go to Disney World on Mother’s Day.”
I loved you enough to let you see anger，disappointment，disgust and tears in my eyes.
I loved you enough not to make excuses for your lack of respect or your bad manners.
I loved you enough to admit that I was wrong and ask your forgiveness.
I loved you enough to ignore“what every other mother”did or said.
I loved you enough to let you stumble，fall，hurt and fail.
I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your own actions，at six，ten，or sixteen.
I loved you enough to figure you would lie about the party being chaperoned，but forgave youfor it
after discovering I was right.
I loved you enough to shove you off my lap，let go of your hand，be mute to your pleas
so that you had to stand alone.
I loved you enough to accept you for what you are，not what I wanted you to be.
But most of all，I loved you enough to say no when you hated me for it.That was the hardest part of all.
爱你至深
【美】欧玛·庞姆贝克
“你不爱我！”
有多少次你的孩子把这句话强加于你？
作为母亲，你又有多少次按捺着内心的冲动，不去向他解释你爱他有多深？
终有一天，当我的孩子长大，能够理解驱使母亲做各种事情的良苦用心时，我会告诉他的。
我爱你至深，才打探你要去什么地方，跟谁去，什么时候回来。
我爱你至深，才坚持要你自己挣钱买自行车，尽管我们买得起，而你当时却买不起。
我爱你至深，才保持沉默，让你自己去发现你精挑细选的朋友原来是个可怕的人。
我爱你至深，才逼着你把咬了一口的银河牌巧克力糖还给杂货店，同时承认：“这是我偷的。”
我爱你至深，才把打扫卧室的活儿留给你，眼睁睁地看着你花两个小时干完，虽然这活儿我来干只要十五分钟就够。
我爱你至深，才对你说：“好的，你可以在母亲节去迪斯尼乐园。”
我爱你至深，才让你看到我眼中的气恼、失望、憎恶和悲伤。
我爱你至深，才不为你不尊重别人以及其他不良行为辩解。
我有你至深，才承认我错了，并请你原谅。
我爱你至深，才不介意你说“人家的妈妈怎么说，怎么做”。
我爱你至深，才让你蹒跚学步，品尝跌倒、受伤、失败的滋味。
我爱你至深，才要你在童年、少年和青年时期就为自己的行为负责。
我爱你至深，才在事先就猜测出你说聚会时有大人在场是说谎，而在事后验证你确实说了谎之后，还是原谅了你。
我爱你至深，才把你从膝上猛地推下去，撒开你的手，对你的请求置若罔闻……这样你只好自己站起来。
我爱你至深，才接受你现在的样子，尽管不是我期望的样子。
最重要的是，我爱你至深，才对你说“不”，尽管我知道你会为此记恨我，而这也是所有事情中我最难做到的。