◎ 社群优先
我会花时间参加社区活动吗？看看你正在考虑的人生道路，并从你将要生活的社区的角度评估一下。这些社区能给你带来快乐，扩展你的学习吗？在考虑你的人生各阶段时，你会有足够的时间投入社区活动——支持他人，帮助建立起可持续发展的邻里关系吗？怎样养成习惯，推动你跟周围的人打成一片？
我会跟不同年龄段的人在一起吗？如果你能花些时间跟比你年长和比你年轻的人在一起，你的人生规划会更经得起推敲，也可能会带给你更多回报。在对你脑海中的阶段和活动详加审视时，你会不会发现自己身处一个同龄人的“聚居区”里？如果确实如此，那你就需要好好想想，如何才能拓展自己的领域，跟其他年龄段的人在一起。不要关注年龄，要重点关注人。
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